Archive for February 24th, 2012

by sunkissed52203 at webshots

One of the things that really hurt my marriage is that we quit doing the fun things we did when we were dating 23 years ago. Our “big dates” evolved into us going out to our favorite restaurant and that’s about it. We quit dancing and doing fun stuff like taking walks together. We became BORING! I have to say my hubby was not big on dancing in public but that wasn’t what it was all about. It was the thrill of it all, the thrill of the chase, the freshness of the relationship.

I look at my girls and their dating habits. One has been in a relationship for a while and her relationship has lost some luster; it is less than fresh. Never let your relationship get to the point of being really comfortable like an old worn shoe. I told her that she needs to take a lesson from my situation. She understands too well. So, to all of you who are in a relationship, don’t take each other for granted. Learn to live and enjoy life no matter how crappy things get around you. Explore new things and don’t settle for what is comfortable!

To be absolutely honest, I didn’t like country music that much back when I was dating my husband but he did. We were dating when country music was changing away from the traditional Merle Haggard and Conway Twitty type of music to the George Strait, Vince Gill, and Garth Brooks type of music. I was willing to go on the adventure with him and it was great! We would go to the country clubs and though we seldom danced in public, we danced at home. We enjoyed each other’s company and lived for the chase. It was a lot of fun! And, that’s what we need again. I see that glimmer in my husband’s eyes when we are together. I know he is still the same but maybe a little worn, maybe a little tarnished and needs to be resoled. I could use a bump-up, too.

So, as we are working to rebuild and do new things, I asked my hubby to take me dancing. I haven’t been dancing in over 20 years but I want to go dancing! Why? For the thrill of being together and doing “new things.” And, mainly to experience the thrill of the chase once again. So, don’t just sit there! Go Dancing!


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