Archive for October 13th, 2012

As we age and arrive at the end our term, as our sense of longevity begins to wane, we tend to see things in a different light. No longer do we pass through life with few cares as we did when first beginning our life without our parents. We know the end is coming, maybe not tomorrow or the day after, but rather than life traveling at a snail’s pace it feels like we are speeding to the end of the road—perhaps without brakes.


Without using the term that begins with a “d” and ends with an “h,” what do you see when you think of that day? First, do you think of what may happen when you are gone? Some do not consider this time, but we will not live ‘forever.’ Do you think about who will be left behind—who will suffer loss and pain? Many times we are so focused on the event of passing and believe since it is inevitable that we should not think about it nor discuss it. What will we leave that is undone and will need to be taken care of? Will those who are left know without a doubt that we loved them fully? These are some of things I think of.  


There are all types of social media, but do we really connect to people? Do we let them know how much we care? I have worried about who I would leave behind for quite some time. Perhaps if I had given more thought I would have chosen not to have a family—I don’t regret it for one minute, but I don’t want them to hurt and be in pain. This is the unselfish part of me but at the time I wanted family because mine was fading away.


Who will be there? Who will be standing at the grave? There have been times where I thought I wouldn’t be missed by anyone. Those are selfish feelings. What really matters is how others will feel when we are gone—feelings of loss and pain. How will loved ones go on without you? Will they know without a doubt where your heart was before you left? I encourage you to consider this if you haven’t before—not to be overly concerned—but to let others know how you feel. Take nothing for granted. Let your loved ones and friends know how you feel. Don’t let them guess in the event that you leave today or soon after or decades down the road.


Have a most glorious day and may your garden grow with great bounty. Happy Gardening! 😀 

NOTE:  I wanted to let everyone know that I am not preoccupied with this subject…I realized after I wrote this it may seem this way. I asked someone last week–who has been really selfish–who he saw at his grave and who did he think he would leave behind. We cannot think everything is only about ‘us’ (me-me-me syndrome) … Have a good day!


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