Archive for October, 2014

I have certain feelings about isolation of people who have been exposed to those with Ebola. I would like to think that we have the common decency to think of others and take responsibility for ourselves so that everyone is safe. The blunders at the hospital earlier this year shows how ill-prepared hospitals were. The CDC should shoulder much of this responsibility and then there is the comment made by the head of the CDC about the nurse on public transportation (airplane). That’s on one hand and then you have the doctor that was diagnosed with Ebola taking the subway system in New York. Now compare all that we know with this nurse who was asked to quarantine herself but refuses to do so. I have to ask myself why she is so defiant. It seems that she wants the attention. This should not have gotten to this point. Hysteria is to blame but also there are other things, too. It’s complicated.


I was going to post something about this the other day but held off. If you are only observing temperature, there is a report that about 13% never have a fever high enough to notice a problem or to notice this as a symptom of Ebola. This is an issue. Supposedly the nurse who flew to Ohio was told she was ok until a fever of 100.4 F – I believe this is correct.


Not everyone has a normal temperature of 98.6 F. Some have a higher normal and some have a lower normal. Did you know this? In other words, a person with a normal temperature of 98.6 would have a 1.8 degree fever if their temp registers 100.4 F whereas a person with a normal of 97.2 F would have a fever of 3.2 degrees. Big difference. My normal is 97.2 F and has been for as long as I remember. One of my daughters has a higher normal but lower than 98.6 and the other has a lower normal than I do. We are not all the same. For webmd, they list normal as 97-99 F. It also matters when you take the temperature, your age, if you are female and still ovulate, etc. All of these things can cause a change in temperature.


If you add 1.8 degrees to my normal of 97.2 F, you get 99 F and no one would think twice at a temp of 99 F. I have experienced issues with this because some nurses only accept 98.6 as the normal. I don’t know why but that’s the case. You can’t set a certain temperature and say you are not contagious until you reach 100.4 F degrees. Any amount of fever in my experience says you are contagious because you have fever when you are fighting a disease—when you are producing white cells. There is also some belief that an increased body temp will help kill viruses in the body. That’s still being debated.


So, should someone quarantine themselves or should they put the public at risk? If you knew for sure that you were not infected then I don’t see a problem with limited contact but you will not know for 21 days (or more depending on the strain of Ebola). Oh, and not to add to hysteria but it has been noted that men who have been treated and cured of Ebola can still carry it in the sperm for a few weeks after they are declared cured. There is much information out there—studies and observed data from various strains of Ebola. This is not cut and dry but why would you want to risk anything or anyone? No, it’s not easy to spread but look at what happened in the US when procedures were not followed. This is scary for any infectious disease control and protocol.


I’m sorry that anyone has been inconvenienced by what they feel is against their freedoms but there has to be some sort of agreement and willingness to be responsible. It reminds me of children having a temper tantrum. Have a great day! 🙂

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Hey, I applaud WordPress for getting involved in the civics of our nation and usually I would care but quite frankly if you live in the United States it is your responsibility to get out and vote—it is your civic duty. Look at it as a requirement for being able to live in a free society. It is a freedom we seem to take for granted much too often. While I appreciate the added “stuff” I can add to my blog to let you know I have voted or to let you know you should vote, etc.—this is your reminder…VOTE. 🙂


And, before you vote…

  • Please do NOT listen to the crazy news stations
  • Do NOT listen to the political ads
  • Do NOT vote straight ticket/party
  • Do get to know who you are voting for–do your homework before you get to the polls
  • And if you are unsure of someone—don’t just pick a name or vote the incumbent–it is better to skip a question in this case

Personally, I always go with a cheat sheet in hand where I have done my homework. I am very quick when I vote because I know who and what I am voting for.


Please do not listen to people who say you do not have a right to vote because you are of a certain age or of a certain demographic. Those people are idiots who are saying this and yes, I have listened to the videos. Every person who is qualified to vote—of a certain age, registered, etc. needs to get out and vote…PERIOD.



Once the person is in office, we need to all stand behind those who are elected whether we voted for them or not. It’s just like a team sport…shake hands at the end and all work together. This is the way politics SHOULD be rather than throwing nastiness back and forth until the next election. (BIG SIGH)


Two things we didn’t talk about at home when I was growing up were finances and politics—as whom one votes for. For those of us in the states…we need to do our duty and vote with a good conscience for the best person for the job. The day I start to vote a party ticket is the day you need to take me out and put me out of my misery. 😀


My parents would be proud. Thanks. 🙂




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I was a shy child—sometimes people try to see me as shy. My daughters don’t believe I ever was. Deep down I am shy but I am also resilient and push myself. I have a lot of self-control—or used to 🙂 –I would make myself overcome things that crossed my path.


One Friday night I was doing my usual working the floor at the restaurant (Friday nights were our busiest) which meant, I was in charge of everything—a great power trip—well, until someone comes running out of the restroom to tell me the men’s toilet was clogged. I was the best handy-man around so I head straight to the back and get some plastic bags and such—knock on the door and head in to find water spilling over the side of the toilet. I had to do that terrible thing of reaching into the toilet and I didn’t shy away from it. I knew I had to clean up and get back taking care of customers. I did my part and got an employee to finish up.


To get to this point, somewhere along the way I became less shy. It was a power trip being able to do so much and think fast on my feet. It was constant and I enjoyed it immensely. I didn’t like the politics but I loved the rush that work gave me. Toilets…not so much 😀 .


I am in unfamiliar territory. Hiding because a person has taken something away from me is tearing me apart. I will see a counselor today (Monday) about what happened to me years ago. I get to relive that night again and that to me is so very scary. I had someone tell me that I should be over it since it was so long ago but this is a lot like grief. If it isn’t handled correctly, then there is this part of me that cries out. I can’t believe it has taken me this long to put it together. I guess it was because I acted like it didn’t happen.


If you have ever been taken advantage of against your will and you had to fight your attacker, you want to have that peace of mind again. You want to take back what was stolen—or I do anyway. I want the person to never have that control over me again—no control. I want to be able to walk away so I can have peace of mind. This is why I had such a difficult time with my to-be-ex-husband. I was fighting for control and he kept taking everything I worked so hard for in an instant. I practiced—going through the various scenarios and then he would swoop in and in a matter of moments I was in tears. It is terrifying to think I may never reach the point I need to be to have that control.


Some people have judged me harshly and that is not fair but what I need is to learn how to deal with that. I feel that I am attacked in some ways. I need my voice again and to be able to stand up to those who try to take things away. I am not that shy child anymore but I have been abused and I didn’t help things by sweeping them under the rug.


So, today begins a new day and hopefully I can learn to stand again and feel good about myself. It isn’t easy. I would much rather face grief or even a clogged toilet but I have to do this. There comes a time where the evil from that night long ago has to find its way to the light of day. I am apprehensive but I am hopeful. 🙂



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This is not an easy post for me but I feel compelled to discuss this as it is a problem in society–one that can be made right if we could all work together. I am having some issues with this as I didn’t reach out for help years ago and should have. I thought I could handle it.

I look at the calendar and I see 2014, a date in modern times, but I don’t see equality like there should be. Why is that? Basically, we are different but it comes down to what we perceive and what we are taught. Outside we look different but inside we are all the same.


I am a female. I’m pretty sure that is obvious. 🙂 I have endured people shouting obscenities at me as well as being whistled at. Guys yelling at me is one thing. I either ignore it or say something quirky just because that’s who I am. We learn to deal with what people say to us at a young age but it doesn’t make it right.


Other things… Twenty-five years ago, I was raped and some years before I was almost raped. I didn’t ask for it but I have heard guys say that women deserve what they get. I have been taken advantage of sexually and I could not do a dang thing about it but what bothers me is that we raise our children to be aggressors. We turn our heads when people talk derogatively of women. Why is that? I have seen and heard men say some awful things to me and to others. It is not ok. And, it isn’t ok for women to do the same to men. Everyone deserves respect—you do—I do—we all deserve respect and we need to learn how to respect others.


We can condition ourselves to behave in a way that treats people in a fair way by not taking advantage. I was told I was to blame for those incidents above. I was in the wrong place at the wrong time for the first one. That was back in college when I first went off to school. It wasn’t someone I knew. I was able to get away but it hurt me because I lost something—my presence of mind and peace—I lost trust in others. After that, I tried to be aware of people and didn’t get so close. I wouldn’t let my guard down.


Many years later I was raped by someone I was dating—someone I trusted and loved. I tried to fight him off but it was too late by the time I realized what was really happening and could not get the upper hand. I cried—I remember that memory so well–tears pouring down my cheeks—he hurt me. He told me later that he thought I meant yes all the times I was screaming no. Why? I felt stupid that I let myself be taken advantage of. I swore that no one would do that to me and I felt that I let it happen. I didn’t tell anyone until years later. There is more to this story and the shame I have lived with. I buried it for a long time and never sought therapy because I thought I could deal with it but like a thorn, it festered away.


I want a world where we don’t rape other people and a place where no means no. I want a world that has love and respect in it and I want to be a part of that. I am tired of seeing people who think they know what love is but yet they have no clue because love isn’t finding gratification when one wants it. It isn’t selfishness. It isn’t getting what one wants without giving. Love is giving and what you get in return is love received. I feel unloved and undeserving and I shouldn’t. Deep down I know I have value but I am having an awful time right now. I have tried to find meaning and purpose in life and I know deep down there is something or there should be for me to build on. I’m tired of feeling like a victim but it keeps happening over and over…things beyond my control and that is what I have fought to get back—is control over my life.


It is important to me that children, especially girls, grow up understanding that equal means equal and this will not happen until all men support women and women support those men so that all men can grow to be upstanding men understanding what no means and what equal means. There has been improvement in many areas but there is so much more and we (humanity) are losing. If you don’t believe me, take a trip through the internet if you dare but be warned–it isn’t pretty. Visit some of the dark corners where it is acceptable and actually approved (and even encouraged) to degrade women. This is not a good thing. When you have gang type behavior—it is never a good thing.


I am not sure how to make things better but I know if guys stood up to other guys, then the behavior would not be acceptable anymore. When women speak up, they are called feminists and are hated. What have we become—less human? We are all in this world together and we need to learn how to live together. We need to learn how to respect each other. It doesn’t just happen. We must condition ourselves to respect others.

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Simon and my (his now) TY baby

Simon and my (his now) TY baby


This is my buddy. Both daughters are gone and the eldest one cannot have Simon live with her right now so he is still with me. He has been clawing the furniture a little too much but he is basically a good cat and sometimes he will sleep with me–nice when it is cold. He keeps me company and I try to play with him but we are running out of “meeces” toys. Note:  I have one cat so please don’t call me the cat lady just yet.


My blog is about to take a turn of sorts and I apologize if there are details that might cause one to turn away. I have delayed my other blog a bit because this is nagging at me something awful. I have mentioned this topic before but barely–definitely not in so much detail.


Sometimes things need to be said. 🙂 I do not know why this keeps coming up but I must deal with it. Have a great day/night and try not to judge me too harshly. 😉

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In the words of my daughter…

Mom, I didn’t know you liked sports so much let alone football. You were never that way when we were growing up.

It’s true. My first husband was so into pro ball that I quit watching a lot of sports BUT… I love college football and began watching while in middle school on Saturday afternoons with my dad. I’m not going to sit here and pretend I know everything there is to know about football but I pay attention to what happens both on and off the field. So why am I writing about football? LOL 😀


UGA (Georgia) has had its ups and downs over the years. We used to refer to the team as the come-back dogs or dawgs—I still do—but when I watched the first game this year, my jaw just hung open to see Gurley (Todd) control the ball. They were not the comeback dogs—they dominated the game that day against Clemson—a rival (stories that I could tell). The game was like a one-man show. I was hoping they could all learn to play as a team. I thought to myself—could these be the days of Herschel? Could Georgia be national champs? A smile came to my face and my eyes began to dance. 😀


Long years ago, the team could be losing at half-time and when they came back on the field, they were transformed into a different entity. Maybe they became zombified—lol. In fact, I don’t know whether it was Dooley or Russell who had such an impact at halftime but it made for some great games. I hate that it was like that—too much suspense at times. It has been that way under Mark Richt, too.


When Hershel (Walker for those of you who may not know who I am referring to) came on the team, things changed—to an extent. There was a new dynamic. My best friend (undergrad) went to high school with Walker so I knew about him before he got to Georgia. He is a couple of years younger. I would see him around campus at UGA. He was a down to earth kind of guy but he seemed immortal at times. He was nice. It seems so strange to remember—so unreal—surreal.


I got to Athens the year after they became national champs (1980). Now some may say they did not achieve that goal but this is my blog and I can write about that another time. Georgia has been known to be an underdog (dawg) team but people love to hate them for some reason. And, that’s what my post is about. I have my own dislikes of some things with Georgia—UGA football—mostly the boosters who believe no one is any better even when they are and think money can buy anything—another topic for another day. But, I am always a dog (dawg) fan mainly because of my dad graduating from Georgia and the bond we had way back when. Oh, and then my time at Georgia of course.


This season was shaping up nicely if they could only play as a team. I tend to read people. When the camera is on the athletes while on the sidelines, I read them. I can usually tell if the person is genuine in their actions and more specific—their inactions. I mention this because I noticed a few things I didn’t like. It’s tough to have a superstar on the team. It creates friction. Remembering back to Herschel’s time…he thought about going pro before graduation and there were people pushing him to leave Georgia and do just that. I was pulling for him to stay. It was a powerful time back in the day. Games were awesome to go to. I’m going to tell you that I believe education should come first and then extracurricular activities like football. Nothing can take away your education but you can lose the opportunities football gives you in the blink of an eye. An injury can come along just like when they found one of the players on the roster this year had some problems and was removed from playing for fear of permanent injury or death.


News of Gurley’s suspension hit hard last week. To me, Georgia has rivals and then there are RIVALS. Auburn and Georgia Tech are probably the biggest two RIVALS. I would add Clemson to the mix and the Florida Gators of course. It is so bad between the Gators and the Dawgs that Florida doesn’t come go to Athens anymore. They tried to have the teams play in Athens and the town regretted it…again.


All of the SEC East and West teams are rivals but…of all the teams Georgia was playing this season, the team to beat should have been decided with the game against Auburn. Hold that thought. Georgia lost to Carolina and shouldn’t have but those are the breaks. I like to watch the teams mature along the way as the season progresses and figured if Georgia had so much at the beginning, just imagine what they could do toward the end of the season when the SEC games really count.


As soon as the news about Gurley broke, everyone said it was all over and said Georgia would lose last Saturday against Missouri. Guess what. They won…34-0. I was shocked but not totally. Missouri didn’t even score and the UGA team looked and played like a team—a real team. 🙂 That’s what happens when you remove the superstar iff (if and only if) the team has been practicing and knows what to expect. I saw a team determined on Saturday—one that was there to make their mark and that they did. Much attention has been given to Gurley but one person who really stepped up to the plate was the quarterback, Hutson Mason. He has come a long way and hopefully will be able to keep going. Georgia has not played perfectly this season but they have some real talent when used together. Mark Richt is no Vince Dooley and this team isn’t the come-back dawgs. 🙂


As fate would have it, Auburn lost Saturday to none other than Mississippi State—wow, what a team. I am amazed at what Mississippi State can do. I kept expecting the Tigers to come back but they didn’t. I wanted a National Championship this year for Georgia. I thought they could achieve it but I watched them give that game away to Carolina. I don’t think they are as good as Mississippi State or Ole Miss probably but that’s my opinion. I think they are better than Alabama but I don’t know about Florida State and then there is Auburn… 🙂


Now it’s time to talk football. The Georgia-Auburn game will be played in Athens…Georgia 😀 . Can Georgia win? I don’t know. It was a game I thought of getting tickets for but wow—out of my price range. Parking would have cost more than the tickets. Georgia can win if they want to and have players healthy enough to play. This is the game I have been waiting for. It is a month away and there are a few others before the team gets back to Athens to play the Tigers. It can be a long road.


The only thing I have heard in the news is about how Gurley needs to be back on the team. I want to say something about that. NCAA rules are there for a reason. If you break those rules whether you are a school or a player or whatever, it will reflect badly on the school as well as the player and team. Integrity is something that should come first because if we don’t have integrity, what good is it to play football in the first place? I’m very serious about that. I can sit here and point fingers but that’s not what football is about.


The Bulldogs may not win another game the rest of the season and that’s ok because in my book they have proved that they are a team no matter what some crazy sports person writes—I’m looking at a certain blogger at ESPN. And, that’s good enough for me. I had reconciled that if Georgia had beat Carolina I would put those dang crappy looking flags on my Jeep. My children asked if I was crazy. I said if they won, I was going to do it and keep them there until the end of the season. They lost but I’m still pulling for my Bulldogs—(Dawgs) 😀 .


Here is a fun fact if you don’t know…

Herschel was #34 and played as a running back. Who was his match from Auburn? They had the same number—played the same position—were the same height and born the same year… 😀 Those were good times. (Answer is below…)


And, if by chance you were watching the game last week you may have a noticed a guy named Brendan Douglas who scored a touchdown by flipping over Missouri’s player…just watch the video…it was good. 😀



Answer to the Herschel question.

Go Dawgs 😀

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Yesterday I posted about how our behavior matters and that in the end our behavior will echo what is in our hearts. I had no idea where this would lead but today was a bad day in many ways. Earlier this year when all of the trees were falling because of the ice storm and I could not even get out of my house…other people in the neighborhood offered help and such. The people I have lived alongside for so long—I remember when they moved in and all of the things I have done over the years…didn’t matter…they refused to help even refusing to give a phone number for a tree guy when I asked. Hard to believe someone can be so selfish but not only that but they called code enforcement this week. The guy came today to tell me my backyard had weeds that were too tall. Nevermind the front yard that I am so ashamed of. It seems that they were coming because a complaint was given—not because of the actual weeds themselves—head/desk—head/desk—head/desk.


My neighbors couldn’t walk a few feet and say something or even say something when we pass each other. This really is eating at me. I wouldn’t do something like this. I would go over and offer to cut someone’s yard or offer to help them do it but I am the one who needs the help this time and it is ok to kick someone when they are down, right? I mean afterall, it’s just neighbors. I don’t count. What I have done for them doesn’t count either evidently. I’m really disheartened. They have pushed me over the edge. The husband stood there that day when I asked about borrowing a chainsaw and in his smugness just asked if I had ever used one. Stupid man—sorry.


Oh course I have used a chainsaw and one a lot bigger than he owns but I was not asking for me to use it but for my ex to use it. I don’t get it. Wouldn’t you want to help someone if they were in trouble? Or, am I the only one who wants to help others? Are we that detached from humanity? I remember when everyone else was trying to get their claims in and he wasn’t worried about it—he waited and was upset because it took too long. That’s what happens when you wait. Is it really that hard?


In the past, the wife has pleaded with me to not call animal control over loose dogs in the neighborhood. I don’t wish any animal bad things but I don’t want an animal to be hurt or to be put down because it is accused of biting someone either. She called me one Sunday night wanting me to call Comcast to complain because Desperate Housewives was not coming in clear enough for her. Good gosh! I told her I don’t watch it and that I was sorry. I was nice and apologetic. She wanted me to wait for a computer to be delivered…I put off some things so I could wait for her computer to be delivered to my address—several days of this. She failed to tell me that she stopped the delivery because it was going to take too many weeks. These are just a few of the crazy things and that doesn’t include my feeding the dogs and stuff…or watching out for things. Nothing is good enough for her nor her husband. They don’t have children so they are very selfish. Karma…I’m waiting for Karma 😀 .


Anyway, it goes to show that our actions speak louder than our words and our behavior echoes what is really in our heart. My heart hurts tonight because neighbors are supposed to be nice—or that’s my view on the world. Imagine if we all acted like this. It’s really sad. Have a good night and blessings for a better day.

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from elephantjournal.com

Belief and behavior should not be separate entities. How one behaves should show what one truly believes but it isn’t always like that…well, it isn’t as one professes he or she believes.


Usually, whatever behavior we exhibit is really what is in our heart. Sure, we can have off days but if someone is kind most of the time, it is probably the result of what one believes. Same thing with hate. If someone is disrespectful and says hateful things most of the time then there is a really good chance that person has the same in their heart.


Our true colors eventually show through. We can only pretend for so long. I hope your behavior shows great things and that there are some wonderful beliefs in that heart of yours. 🙂


Happy Gardening! 😀

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I just got through reading comments from a NEWS outlet (semi local) about sending troops to Africa to help fight the ebola outbreak. I want to say something. While I want to be safe from this dreaded disease and want the same for the service men and women of my country, I also want our world to be safe. The comments were for the most part blaming everything on our president. You may not like the US president but like it or not he IS our president. It amazes me how shallow people are and…that they are so dang hateful.


These comments blamed him for the disease and found fault with his decision to send in troops to battle this. Listen up. This decision is nothing new. It has been discussed for the past few months. Someone needs to be willing to step up and take the helm. Many countries have sent in teams to help but there needs to be more and it isn’t easy to do this. I could go on and on about this but you have your mind made up already whether you support this or not. I’m not trying to persuade anyone but merely pointing out a fact that people need help and we, in the US and across the world, will not be safe until ebola is controlled.


Comments that are racist and negative do no good. One person said the president just wants to kill off the troops. Really? Are we really that stupid to believe such?


As a side note, if you don’t believe in evolution, this is evolution in progress. Viruses are evolutionary. Even colds (yes, I know they are viruses)…they can enter into a body and have changed and mutated by the time the viral pathogens leave going to the next host. There are viruses that have been around for thousands of years that are just being uncovered—emerging because we have become a mobile society. In the past, we lived in pods. Outbreaks were contained and died out. Some people survived and their bodies grew resistant to the viruses until a different virus came along. It is all about survival. Viruses are just another living thing. They want to survive, too, but this virus is not a symbiotic one. However, the more people who are infected and the longer it thrives, the more it learns and develops into something that will coexist until it can find another host. We need to stop it now. The longer we wait the better chance it has to remain amongst us.


Here is the scary part if this isn’t scary enough.


I personally think we are on the verge of discovering a giant breakthrough. While it may seem a hoorah moment in time, I wonder if it might be the beginning of our own demise. You see, I am unsure how far we have come to break the genetic code so to say…to cure disease…not just individual diseases but all diseases. There are some factors that seem to show us how easy it is to treat some things like an on/off switch. I can’t supply data for you. This is me putting together some things I have been reading…and just guessing at a conclusion. We would be in trouble if we can cure all disease. Think about that. Sure, it would be nice but there would be no population control. We need population control. It sounds terrible but that is what keeps the balance of life where it needs to be. Just some of my thoughts.


Some of the science fiction movies have not been too far off the mark if you ask me. It’s a little too real. I’m going to link to an article I read this week. (LINK) It is an interview done with Dr. Peter Piot (link to his wikipedia page). I was impressed to learn more about ebola from the days when it was first named like seeing through the eyes of the past. This is surreal to me.


It is easy to say for Africa to take care of her own but that’s just not even possible at this point. We are all on this earth together. We need to work together. If we don’t, we deserve what we get. How dare we puff up ourselves like we are better than someone else. We must care for each other.

I hope your gardens are growing great things! 🙂

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Do you know why people laugh at US–the United States? Well, here is a clue…


This has been bothering me. Maybe someone was watching FoX NEWS when this happened last week—I don’t watch them anymore. It seems that a female pilot from the UAE was being hailed a hero for her part in the airstrikes in Syria but instead the shout out was made a mockery by some buffoons there at the channel. According to the Guardian…  



One presenter, Kimberly Guilfoyle, tried to pay tribute to Major Mariam al-Mansouri, 35, one of four UAE fighter pilots to take part in the operation. “Hey, Isis, you were bombed by a woman,” she said. “Very exciting, a woman doing this … I hope that hurt extra bad because in some Arab countries women can’t even drive.”

She continued: “Major Mariam al-Mansouri is who did this. Remarkable, very excited. I wish it was an American pilot. I’ll take a woman doing this any day to them.”

But after the segment, co-host Greg Gutfeld interrupted Guilfoyle, mocking the pilot.

  • “The problem is after she bombed it she couldn’t park it,” he said.

Another presenter, Eric Bolling, joined in, asking:

  • “Would that be considered boobs on the ground or no?”

The conversation between panellists [sic], which was broadcast on Wednesday, was part of discussion show The Five on Fox News.

Mansouri, who is from Abu Dhabi, graduated from the UAE air force academy in 2008 after becoming one of the first women to join after it scrapped its ban on women.

Speaking to the National of UAE, she said: “It was my aspiration. Ever since I finished high school, I wanted to learn flying because it was something that I liked in the first place.

“A woman’s passion about something will lead her to achieving what she aspires and that’s why she should pursue her interests.”

Mansouri told CNN this summer: “I put my mind to being a fighter pilot. But at that time, the doors were not open for females to be pilots, so I had to wait almost 10 years.

“Whenever a woman enters a new male-dominated field, they find the same hesitation, the same prejudice, the same stereotype thinking.

“And I had to prove myself by just being determined and having that skill and the knowledge enough to prove that I can perform as skilfully as the men in this field.”



You can watch the video (this link is from Youtube) but I will let you know that I had to hide my head in shame as I watched. I could not believe it. This is 2014 not 1814 or 1614 or 3214 BC or BCE. Women may have found equality in some areas but until a woman is respected—until she has as much rights and power and respect as that of any man (and I am speaking across the board for all women)—we (all humans) are no better than animals. In fact, I love animals and would rather be with them than a lot of the asinines who talk like these two. Women have had to do things twice as hard to get noticed and twice as much to gain respect and it still is not good enough in the eyes of some. I wish the two guys had been fired that day. Castration (or worse) is an option…ok, I’m kidding…sort of…maybe…well…I’m not perfect… :/


My father didn’t have a son but he taught me to push for the stars and that no one should treat a female as a second rate citizen. When we do not respect others, we do not get respect—I’m talking about women and other countries. When we do not respect the rights of others, they will not respect us. I didn’t fit the norm when growing up. Daddy didn’t see me as female or a male—I was his child. He wanted the best for me. He taught me how to build things, how to roof a house, build two additions onto our house, how to make things, how to draw and plan projects, how to build furniture…all types of stuff. I was there watching and learning at first and then I was doing it with him–his helper–his trainee. I was mowing lawns and cutting wood during my teenage years. He used to joke about his log splitter…that he had the best. The sales people that went into his office pictured something out of a catalog but he was talking about me. 😀 We have laughed at that story for so many years.


Women can do anything they want. Don’t make fun of them and never refer to them/us as objects or boobs or other degrading things. And, encourage girls to keep pushing the limits.


If you are a man, before you make fun of a woman in a degrading way, you need to first think about your daughter or potential daughter or granddaughter. If that’s not enough, think about your mother’s father. What if he had treated her in such a way–making fun of her? Every time a man degrades a woman, he makes a stab at all women and that’s just not acceptable. Women work too hard to “earn” respect. I know some will say women shouldn’t be respected but we should. Maybe one day…


Oh, and here is a response from some of those who have served in the armed forces. I really think these two guys shouldn’t be working in the public sector where they can give people a bad name. They don’t speak for me. Sometimes, life is tough and there are some men who think being a woman is so easy.


Dear Mr. Bolling and Mr. Gutfeld,

We are veterans of the United States armed forces, and we are writing to inform you that your remarks about United Arab Emirates Air Force Major Mariam Al Mansouri were unwarranted, offensive, and fundamentally opposed to what the military taught us to stand for.

First, foremost, and most obvious to everyone other than yourselves, your remarks were immensely inappropriate. Your co-host Kimberly Guilfoyle was so right to call attention to an inspiring story of a woman shattering glass ceilings in a society where doing so is immeasurably difficult. We never heard an answer to her question: why did you feel so compelled to “ruin her thing?”

As it turns out, women have been flying combat aircraft since before either of you were born. Over 1,000 Women Airforce Service Pilots (WASPs) flew during World War II. Seeing as U.S. Army Air Forces Commander “Hap” Arnold said “Now in 1944, it is on the record that women can fly as well as men,” we can probably guess he thought their parking was adequate. The WASP legacy reaches into the present day; on 9/11, then Lt. Heather “Lucky” Penney scrambled her F-16. Completely unarmed, she was ready to lay down her own life to prevent further devastating attacks on American soil.

Thus the skill of women as fighter pilots is well established. And before you jump to the standby excuse that you were “just making a joke” or “having a laugh,” let the men amongst our number preemptively respond: You are not funny. You are not clever. And you are not excused. Perhaps the phrase “boys will be boys”—inevitably uttered wherever misogyny is present—is relevant. Men would never insult and demean a fellow servicemember; boys think saying the word ‘boobs’ is funny.

The less obvious implication of your remarks, however, is that by offending an ally and cheapening her contribution, you are actively hurting the mission. We need to send a clear message that anyone, male or female, who will stand up to ISIS and get the job done is worthy of our respect and gratitude.

We issue an apology on your behalf to Major Al Mansouri knowing that anything your producers force you to say will be contrived and insincere. Major, we’re sincerely sorry for the rudeness; clearly, these boys don’t take your service seriously, but we and the rest of the American public do.

Very Respectfully,

[Men and women of the Truman Project—The Truman National Security Project unites next-generation veteran, political, and policy leaders to develop and advance strong, smart, and principled solutions to the global challenges]

I counted 60 names who signed on. There were more who wanted to sign but the letter had been sent. Those people that present the NEWS are representing us as a country whether they mean to or not and I don’t take kindly to that. I cannot wish bad things on people but I wish they were not so senseless. I wish they were more respectful of people—speaking for the boys on the show. There is a terrible disease in this country and across the globe—pride and selfishness. Someone said she watches FoX–she said that all stations make mistakes so it doesn’t bother her. That is true…we all make mistakes. But, this was not a mistake. A mistake is something that you don’t mean to do. This was true to their character, their way of life, the way they believe…no mistake. They would do it again if they thought they could get away with it and they did get away with it, didn’t they? If it was me saying something about a man…I would be out of a job that day.


Where does it stop? Where does respect begin? Too many people see women as sex objects–worth less than a man and many times they see us as worthless. It is past time for that to change. It’s 2014! It’s time for the boys in the world to grow up and become MEN! Oh, and…I’m just a girl… 😀 Other things I was taught along the way:  how to arc weld, how to drive a tractor, and how to drive a CAT road grader and skidder-like machine…and some other stuff. 😀 I’m just a girl who has been a math teacher, a cook, waitress, restaurant manager, tutor, volunteer, trainer and leader for Girl Scouts, caregiver, I have given birth to two children, yada, yada,… A woman’s job is never done and one day I hope to be a grandmother and it cycles again. I read, paint, sew, make music and build things … and I blog. 😉

Encourage the young women in your life to push the limits and require the guys in your life to show respect. Have a great day! 🙂


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