- Father’s Day is coming up, and as we approach the big day I think there are a few things we should consider …
Mothers have this uncanny ability not only to give birth and nurture their babies, but to care for them and protect them, teach them, and even play with them as they grow. They care for every need and learn to anticipate what comes next. Most moms do this because they are saddled with that responsibility but it is more to it than just giving birth. Most women have that natural caring instinct and it means many a time that we go without so that our children will have what they need—sometimes the very basics of needs and not wants. This is where selfless love begins. So many fathers on the other hand must learn what SELF-LESS love means. Some never learn it. And, in this day of so many broken and rethreaded families, fathers have a hard time learning their role in life—but that is no excuse.
Almost any man can father a baby but it takes a special man to be a true father–a dad. And, that means more than providing money so that can happen. Fathers are yoked with the responsibility of caring for their children, protecting them, educating them, and so much more. Just like Mom, a father has to personally invest of himself—give of himself to be a good dad. But, many men are selfish—too many men—sorry (no, not really). Not all men are that way but I am afraid it is becoming the norm.

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Many men/guys/boys become fathers because they were selfish to begin with, wanting self-gratification, trying to satisfy a feeling, need or urge, and it isn’t the need to give love in the fullest of meanings. It is physical. There are some great fathers out there. Don’t get me wrong. I know. I had one. Even my husband was one (and with time, hopefully he will be again). My dad’s only drawback was that my mom felt that he loved me more than her. I don’t think he did, but too often I came before her or it appeared that way.
Don’t let your wives feel that you love your child(ren) more than her. You are there to give her love. When that bond is right—strong—then you become good parents, possibly great parents. When that bond is weak, you can be really lousy parents and you can’t be a great father if you haven’t been a great husband. I know there are those who will take issue with this, but it is not all about one over the other. It is about how we do things together.
So, as we approach Father’s Day, I would like to say that if you want to be a good father, then do everything you can to be the best father and that’s not tempting your children with material things. To be the best father, you need to love your child’s mother beyond yourself first. Show her love—that means tenderness, caring, romance! And, this does not pertain to that relationship with the woman young enough to be your child who you have fathered a child with–outside of your marriage.
When the marriage bond of love is strong, the fatherly bond becomes strong because it is all about giving—it is not about what we get. You must give love to receive love or at least I see it this way because we cannot just receive and not give. I wish we would learn this simple fact. Many men do not understand this and believe their “obligation” to the wife is only physical love, if you know what I mean. When your marriage bond is satisfied fully, you can love your children the way they should be loved and looked after. This is one of the mysteries of life or actually, one of the facts of life.
To be quite honest, we don’t need any more fathers in this world—fathers outside of marriage in particular. We need more husbands who know how to be fathers. It is all about selfLESSness and not selfishness. It is all about love. Happy Father’s Day! May we all strive to be better parents and never expect to be worshipped for what is our duty to begin with. Some harsh words but someone needs to be saying them!
Happy Gardening in all aspects of your life!
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