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High fives and cliques

For those who are high-fiving and celebrating the confirmation of Kavanaugh I can only shake my head.

Maybe it’s because they believe their side won. Maybe they think he’s an upstanding man – he’s not just from his comments last week. Maybe they believe he’s more qualified – he’s not. Or maybe it’s basically because they believe K will overturn Roe v Wade and side against “those homosexuals and liberals who are trying to take over” *their* country. I think it’s because they believe *their* rights are being infringed upon. Sigh.

Liberals/progressives push for rights for all people and not just a few. They/we want more inclusion rather than exclusion. We want people to be treated equal. We are tired of the patriarchy telling us to shut up.

I hate politics but I’ve embraced it. I treat others like I want to be treated every day. I’m literally hated where I live. It’s 70% voting republicans. Many businesses I patronize turn to fox news all day long. I’m truly hated but I fight hard not to hate them.

I used to be more conservative but for the life of me, I can’t see why I was like that other than it was the circle we were in just like a clique. It is hard to see out of the bubble.

While some are more interested in telling others how we should worship, how we should treat our bodies, who we can marry, and on and on I’m fighting for people who get passed over, those who are marginalized, victims of sexual abuse, fighting for better education, single payer healthcare, and a better way of life for all. I don’t see a choice. I see those cerebrating K as fighting against all of these things, except for themselves of course because they are selfish. Sorry but that’s what I see.

Note: It is my blog. I only publish comments I choose to publish. 🙂

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Not the news I wanted

I went to my allergist for my six month appointment. She was hoping to label me “in remission” but I’ve had a few setbacks so she’s ordered blood tests and added claritin to take in the morning with the zyrtec at night and return in 6 weeks.

Well, that was the plan. I ran out of zyrtec before I could get to the store so I was taking benadryl every 4-6 hours. Went to bed Wednesday night missing my dose I take about 11pm before bed and woke up with a few welts on my hand and arm. In less than 8 hours I was breaking out and I was taking benadryl. Took a dose at 6 pm last night, just as soon as I got home with the meds, and I was broken out even more this morning.

This is not good. I’m really depressed about it. Between my insurance and me, we’ve spent over $50,000 to get me in remission. I was really hoping. If I don’t take antihistamine my immune system goes into overdrive and starts to attack me. It was 3 years ago when I first went to the allergist. I was allergic to everything, especially myself. I really hate this.

Hi there! I spend a good bit of time on social media. The internet can be used for so many good things. Connecting with family and friends, sharing ideas, education … which brings me to the bad parts of the internet. Not all education is equal. People can visit YouTube and find there are people there who profess to have evidence the earth is flat. At first you’d think this is benign but it isn’t. Conspiracy theories can be quite deadly and spread rampantly because there are few checks on accuracy of information.

I frequent Twitter and typically get drawn into conversations where people who call themselves Christians are telling others they are going to hell. It’s what they do on social media and it’s not limited to non believers. You don’t believe their flavor of Christianity? Sorry, you are headed to hell like the rest. Someone asks about mercy and forgiveness and it seems Christianity is only following the law – well for everyone else. For them it’s all about love and forgiveness.

I’ve decided to return to the blog a bit but be warned, I’ve changed. I have something I need to say even if no one reads it. Be well and be good to others. Happy Gardening! 🙂

Here it is approaching the end of April 2018 and I haven’t blogged in quite a long time. I find myself torn with blogging. I’ve lost touch with people. I’ve been involved with other social media platforms and it seems to take longer to write a blog post—too much info. I still write things—posts—but I never post them. They are all in a folder—well, the ones I decided to keep.

 

I guess when I began this blog back in 2010 (I think that’s right) I wasn’t prepared for the changes I would experience and there have been many. I think it’s good. There are ups and downs in life. When I first began I wasn’t comfortable sharing things online—I’m still not comfortable after being targeted by certain people a few years ago and that was before I developed a diverse opinion like today. It’s a toxic world we live in and opposing opinions don’t sit well with some people.

 

My time on social media has helped me to grow. I’ve learned much knowledge but also things about myself. I’ve learned to challenge myself and push my limits if only through thought. I’ve turned over more leaves with this one main blog than there are leaves on a one tree. 😀

 

I really don’t know what is in store. I can say I plan to blog more often but I can’t promise it. I can’t promise my words won’t be confrontational or that it will be like the rest of the blog of the past. I think we don’t grow until we are willing to challenge ourselves. Growth only happens when we are willing. Same with opinions. The thing with opinions is that everyone has one and most of us think ours is the best. 🙂

Connection

I would never advise someone to place others on too high of a pedestal. It’s a long way down. We are all human and we will never meet every expectation from others in life but we continue filling our trophy rooms with idols. We choose someone-maybe they have done something which seems extraordinary-maybe someone has hyped them up-maybe they are the center of media attention-but there will always be something that will cause us to think, wait, maybe they aren’t that great after all. Whomever we choose to idolize, we should be prepared that they aren’t what we expect.

 

Brené Brown is my idol but it’s not the person that I idolize. It’s what she has to say. The first time I heard anything about her was this TED talk from 2010:

 

 

She talked about shame and vulnerability and how it takes courage to overcome these things to find connection but it takes a sense of worthiness. I took identity with this – my crazy way to say that I identified with what she was saying. I was like-where has this person been all of my life? This is me!

 

She appears GENUINE. She talks about her personal vulnerabilities and how she wants to conquer them. What catches my eye is her imperfection rather than the perfection that much idol worship seems to be centered around. She references authenticity in her works (and a bit in this talk) of how we have to be authentic to ourselves and to others but that we are scared of being vulnerable. We don’t want to feel the pain of shame. On the flip side, if we aren’t willing to take risks to face our vulnerabilities we will not find connection. If you have not watched the video, I encourage you to do so.

 

As for her approach to raising kids, this is what she had to say, “You know what? You’re imperfect, and you’re wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.”

 

Just think what could happen if we were to change our attitudes. We are more interested in blaming others than working on what we can do to help us with our pain and shame. Life could change. We could work toward things-positive things. Our politics could change. We can’t grow if we don’t face our shame. We can’t conquer our vulnerabilities if we avoid and numb. And, when we accept that we are worthy, we are able to make connection.

 

 

Connection

Vulnerability       –          Shame

Courage

 

 

She has another TED talk from 2012:

 

 

But… my very VERY favorite of all things in video form is this little goody of how she describes empathy:

This is truly the best to me. I love it!

 

We need positive people in our lives. We need guiding forces. We need to understand that people are not perfect but that many have a message that is genuine. To me, life is growth. We must continue to identify our vulnerabilities and shame and then work to deal with them making us feel worthy and more connected.

 

Happy Gardening! 🙂

 

Had Enough

Are you concerned about the state of affairs with the US and other countries? Do you think Donald Trump has everything under control? Do you think this is just a friendly game of cat and mouse?  Yeah, I would like to think that, too. I know how this man and the republican party like to drive the thought of fear so they have more control. I keep thinking that no one who can think rationally-knowing all about the cold war history-would attempt a first strike of nuclear weapons but that’s the thing. There is no one on this side of the Pacific who is thinking rationally that occupies the oval office. I thought the leaders of North Korea were slightly-more than slightly-off. They practically invented fear. That was until we elected Donald Trump who has access to nuclear launch codes.

 

By the way, this piece isn’t written out of fear nor is it an emotional response to the news. I like to keep tabs on things happening around the world to see if there is certain activity that would point us closer to a first strike or if Kim Jong-un would risk a strike to South Korea, Guam, or to the US or possibly another country—say, Japan. Some people I follow are not new to this type of game of chicken and I have to say, it worries me a bit when they express great concern because I know this is their specialty. The conversations turned dark the day the hydrogen bomb was released/tested in North Korea. It was the worst of conversations that I have seen yet but it seems like it continues to darken.

 

With previous administrations I could tell when something was about to happen. The military activity would pick up and certain signs would make themselves known but with this administration, it’s not so easy to read the tea leaves. I don’t have contacts at the base anymore so it’s a bit more difficult what’s really going on. I will say that I have reason for concern now, too.

 

I’ve changed my view on North Korea over the years like other things. I still think they are a threat to humankind but I know threatening them – goading them – is not the answer. Let me break a minute – let’s go back say 3 years ago. We had twitter and other social mediums. Can you for one second see Barack Obama tweet “rocket man” to the leader of North Korea on twitter? What would people in Congress do or think? From my view, both parties would be knocking on the door of the whitehouse at 2 AM demanding answers—both parties.

 

We live in a surreal world that has been normalized. The past leader of the free world – the one of the US – is purely and simply provoking a man who has hydrogen bomb capability. Let that sink in. HYDROGEN BOMB…sss. We have literally normalized nuclear weapons in casual conversation. I don’t know what has happened to this country. I really don’t.

 

Happy Gardening!

The Peddler

For the life of me, I don’t get how people can justify their exalting of Donald Trump. They firmly believe that he alone will “save” our country from evil. What evil you ask? Anything that goes against their personal beliefs never mind all of the things the president has done and continues to do that go against their beliefs too.

 

I just watched a clip of Rick Joyner telling how God will destroy anyone who stands in Trump’s way. He named out groups of people who have been unfaithful and who he says will perish because they have turned against God’s will of Trump as president. Oh please. Cue Jim Bakker and ‘mush in a bucket’ for the end times…

 

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But wait…there’s more…

For the AMAZING low price of $10,976 you can receive 10,472 servings of food.

Sigh and eye roll.

 

What happened to our brains? Why aren’t we using them? We have lost the ability to see con’men’ for what and who they really are.

 

Not sure if I told this story before. It was after the Jim Jones incident at Jonestown in 1978. I tried to be aware of fly-by-night preachers and people in general who wanted to “sell” things (sometimes they were “free”). What they were saying just didn’t add up. I was in graduate school at the time and a friend of ours wanted us to go hear a guy at the local Holiday Inn conference room in Athens. Ok. I really didn’t want to go but we didn’t have anything planned so about 6 of us went. The preacher talked about how God’s will was for people to prosper in wealth…much wealth…cited Bible verses…showed off his wealth, rings, pictures of cars, houses, etc. I felt like I was at one of those realtor show places where they try to get people to buy into the market. The deal was too good to be true. He kept saying how everyone should be wealthy if they just had faith.

 

As he talked, I looked at the rest of the group and shook my head. They agreed. This wasn’t a good choice. Four of us wanted to leave but two wanted to wait until the end. I had a bad feeling but I said ok. As we approached the closing the preacher became more charismatic and said everyone must come to the front of the room – one at a time – and speak in tongues. Oh Lordy, here we go. I laughed because I had a feeling this was coming. We watched a few people obey. I was debating my choices. As he got closer to where we were sitting, I stood up and said – NOPE! and led the group out of the room. I wasn’t going to stay. It was a con job.

 

Too often we become so close to the problem that we lose all objectivity and can’t see from anyone else’s perspective. We get so entrenched that we lose ourselves and go with the flow of the crowd. If you have ever been in a huge crowd like a concert or such, you know that you have to move with the crowd to avoid being trampled. This is what has happened. The crowd is so huge and so close to the issue that there is no objectivity. Had I not stood up that evening and said we were leaving, many in the group would have gone through with the charade just to appease the preacher and I use that term very loosely.

 

I’m amazed at how firm a grip this charismatic movement of today has taken over much of the country. I used to blog about it. It’s like watching cattle go to slaughter but knowing their fate and still choosing it. The Jim Jones tale has always haunted me. A friend of mine lost someone there. It’s very painful for her to talk about even today and rightfully so. People spoke up about that cult. It was easy to see the group as separate but that isn’t the case today. People speak up about what’s going on but these views such as from Joyner, Bakker, Graham, Robertson, etc are so accepted that the voices aren’t being heard and they are attacked from people such as this group and their followers. It’s like the country is being held hostage. I’m still waiting for reality to reappear but I’m not confident that will happen in my lifetime.

 

Happy Gardening and let’s be good to each other! 🙂

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